Today my husband shared a message to me about haters. This got me thinking. Not about our “haters” but about the people who are waiting for you to WIN! 

The people who are waiting on YOUR lead so they can follow suit. People who see your greatness and NEED you to fix your crown and go harder. The person waiting on you to pick yourself up and all the pieces to make yourself whole again so they can know it can be done. 
There are people in your circle who pray that you make it so they can find the strength and courage to dream a bigger dream. 
Some of us are content with dreaming while others want to attain theirs. 

Which one are you? 
Some of your brilliant ideas that you have been sitting on are holding other people’s dreams hostage!!! Take the leap. Watch you fly. Watch you make someone else’s dream come alive. 
Some don’t want to reach for their dreams because then they won’t have something to live or strive for. THEY NEED YOU to show them that more dreams come true when you dream more dreams. More dreams come true when you make your dreams a reality. Dreams are meant to eventually became your REALITY. Ase 🙏🏾 

Happy Sunday Lovers, I recently had a conversation with one of my soul sistas and in the conversation she mentioned hating the sound of her voice. She too was from a blended family and started listing all the things that were wrong. I shared with her it’s taken me some getting use to hearing the sound of my own voice. I played the seen but not heard girl for many years. We play many roles that dilute who we are. I played the second wife, the bonus mom, the will I ever measure up role, the evil step mom, the side chick, the baby momma, or second baby momma. I’ve played the black sheep. I’ve played the bitch. I’ve played the tough, but dying inside, I've played the victim. After years of this drama, I got tired of participating and trying to fit in a box that was not labeled “Queen” or "child of God" plain and simple.

When you identify with who you are, you realize the only label that matters is the one that truly honors the epitome of who you are. The truth of you are you.  The innocence of who you are.  Until then, you will rationalize with others opinions of you. It’ll play over and over in your head. Not what or who people know you to be, not what others have heard, but who you truly are...even the becoming. Things always settle down when you find or fix your crown. When you start taking care of you, when you stop and listen to the divine.  When you come to know I can be all those things but I’m actually way more. Things change quickly. But that’s because you’ve changed your mindset of you therefore mindset of all things change 👑 #queentalk

It took me a long time to shake off people’s perceptions of me. A long time to stop believing who they thought I was. A long time to realize I'm good. I'm great. I'm beautiful. I'm worthy.

When you’re not quite sure of who you are that can be really tricky. Cause not only will you try to convince others you’ll be trying to convince you too.

There’s going to come a time when people get the wrong idea of you, know it’s not your job to change, convince or persuade them. Sometimes it’s not even about you but the space you occupy that people can be uncomfortable with. It is your job to make sure you love you enough to drown out the noise. How to drown out the noise you say, remember you are created in the reflection of the divine. To stand in your truth. To be still. To reflect and say why does this affect me so much? Answer yourself honestly and gently. To honor the person you are. 

Lovers, speak up even when your voice trembles. Speak up until you recognize that the sound of your voice has power. Maybe you didn’t recognize your own strength at one point which is why you may not like the way it sounds. I encourage you to find your shout. Turn to what God thinks of you. He knows your frame. Everything about you is beautiful including the sound of your voice.

Often times when we need to be our biggest fans we can be our worst enemy. 
We tell ourselves stories, same stories that sad and broken people use to tell us. Same things hurt people use to say when they wanted to break us down. 
After hearing it for so long maybe we began to believe them and live up to them. 
The closest most intimate relationship we can have other than the one with the divine is with our very selves.

Build YOU. Before you build anyone else. You can’t help anyone until you help yourself. 
Lovers, what are some of the things you say to yourself? When I took this pic I picked it apart!

I even went on a tangent until one of my sister coaches in my accountablity group said girl you look amazing" then I was awe thanks, you're right cause I actually felt good and super strong when my hubby started snapping these pics right after on of our couples workout together.  But because of my bloating and the fact that I’ve been eating more of the things I’d don’t normally eat while celebrating family and life. I let that insecure feeling creep up.

I had to correct myself real quick because I’m literally the strongest person I know. I know this because I know what I’ve overcome. I started mentally saying you are one bad woman Cat!!! Bad as in good 😊

We all have our moments? Does your self talk sound like kind and loving words? Are they encouraging and uplifting? Are they empowering? Do you affirm yourself? OR do you indulge in unhealthy self talk and mind chatter. Do you focus on limiting beliefs, self doubt and pick yourself and your body apart. 

Even as a fitness influencer sometimes I find myself in the sunken place.  But luckily I've learned that this is part of the journey and that I have unlimited power to get over myself and the ideals of perfection when that is not what I'm striving for when ultimately I'm striving to be better than the girl I was yesterday. 

Let’s honor ourselves today and everyday by saying all the things you need to hear. Start with you. Need support. Start with you. Need to feel loved. Start with you. Invest in your mental health and wellbeing.

POWER UP REMINDER: this week I’ve done my very best. Next week I vow to do better. Each day I level up building towards the person I’m destined to be!

Be Good to You Lovers, we are all doing and trying our best at adulting, parenting, boss thing and leveling up.  Be mindful of how far you've come.

When I share my story about leaving my corporate job after 11 yrs at the company  worked for some of my co-workers grew into family. Granted they knew all of my children by name and held my youngest when he was only a few months old.  Left a completely familiar and comfortable situation to build my business as a full time holistic wellness coach to help heal others on their mind body and fit soul journey...they ask me how and at what point did I know it was time. It was an end to a chapter of driving to work crying because I simply felt unfulfilled.  Where I didn't feel intelligent or being used to create more.  It was simply time. It was actually something in my mind I had planned for 7 years and year after year of not listening to my heart, I felt more and more anguish.  But while I sit back and think I left I truly left on Gods time.  I needed to go through those tough days to truly appreciate this new chapter in my life.

I walked away with FAITH. I wake up with FAITH. I work faithfully. 
I want to share with all my fellow goddesses if what you’ve been doing something, or who you’ve been with  someone  whois pulling you further away from your life's assignment, taking you out of alignment. If you’re experiencing a tug or war situation between your happiness and your purpose..
Walk away from it. RUN if you have to.

Whether you’re;
Full of fear
Full of excuses
Eyes full of tears
Heart broken
Grief stricken
Guilt ridden

Broke
Empty
Unsure

Walk away. Run if you have to. Run away from what no longer makes you feel good, feel whole and run towards all the things that light you up from the inside out.  Run towards what truly brings joy in your life and in the life of others.

namaste Cathleen

When you are in alignment with who you are called to be, your entire being will emulate a certain energy.  When you find yourself smiling, that is you being birthed from all the tears ~ Cathleen Benjamin